They would both be angry and hurtful to each other. He verbally abused my mother incessantly for my entire childhood. He was authoritarian, aggressive, controlling, and miserable. When I was alone with her it was the best time ever, she was kind and nurturing.īut if my dad showed up, we all changed. She did completely give up her life for our family.
If I expressed my feelings and they weren’t good, mom might get offended that we were not grateful for her, she might cry.
Things were not always nice at our house, but it was extremely important that we always pretended they were.
